Counseling for Couples

A safe Place For Couples AND partners of all sorts to explore relationships and connection

You may find couple/relationship counseling useful if………..

  • You’re struggling with old patterns and having the same circular arguments with no resolution

  • You feel unsure of where your relationship stands and you’re seeking clarity

  • Your relationship is going through an infidelity/betrayal

  • You really want your relationship to work, yet you seem unable to connect in the way you’d like

  • You’re having challenges with sex

  • You’d like to explore your future with your partner

  • You’d like to work on parenting concerns

  • You’re interested in changing or working with the shape of your relationship

  • You have a blended family and you need support

Relationships can be challenging. You may find that you and your partner go around and around in a relentless cycle of what seems to be the same argument. You may feel frustrated, stuck, and alone. You might be experiencing a betrayal and wonder if your relationship- or either of you- can ever recover. Perhaps you’re wondering how to work through all of this and it feels scary and overwhelming. These experiences and concerns are normal. As your support system, I come from a place of acceptance and non-judgement. I’ll work with you to find a clearer understanding of what may be happening in your relationship and how to best proceed in the manner that feels right for you.

“Love is a combination of care, commitment, knowledge, responsibility, respect, and trust.”

bell hooks

Relationships of all sorts are welcomed and honored here.

I honor and respect relationships of all sorts and enjoy working with relationships of all configurations. Whether you’re a dyad, parents in a blended family, interested in shifting your relational agreements, or just plain curious about how your relationship might be the most fulfilling, I am here to support you and your loved ones. While sex can sometimes be a sensitive issue to broach in relationships, this is also a safe, accepting, and nonjudgemental space in which to explore sexual wellbeing and any concerns you may have about your own sexuality, sexual experiences, and/or sex in your relationship (s). This could include topics such as infidelity or betrayal, desire discrepancy, orgasm concerns, sexual trauma, and much more.

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Struggling in relationships is not uncommon, and therapy can help!

Relationship struggles are often fueled by attachment-based cycles and patterns which may undermine the secure connection you yearn for in a partnership. You may find that relational escalation occurs frequently and that it can be challenging to shift this pattern. It may be that one of you becomes blaming while the other shuts down, that you both shut down, or that you both become angry. These are common patterns that are often addressed in relationship therapy. While it may not always be easy, these patterns can be shifted so that everyone feels a deeper sense of understanding and unity.

What’s your approach to relationship counseling?

In our sessions we’ll work with an integrative therapeutic approach, meaning that we’ll use complimentary models that best suit your preference, situation, and needs. For relationship counseling I often utilize EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy), which is an attachment-based, non-pathologizing, and non-blaming modality. EFT allows us to learn about your relational patterns, consider how these patterns may or may not serve your current relationship, and work to re-engage, soften, and shift them in order to increase your emotional connection and intimacy. Things can feel better, and we’ll get there together!

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 questions you may have

  • While there are some exceptions, the answer is generally…..yes! Counseling is a safe space to work on where your relationship is, was, and can be in the future.

  • Therapy is typically attended once a week for best results. While there may occasionally be special circumstances or exceptions, once a week is how we usually work. Although it would be nice to know exactly how many sessions this will take, the truth is that we don’t really know until we start working together. You may have a few small issues that you want to explore in counseling, or you may have long-term and deeply engrained concerns that you want to address. The amount of time we spend together will depend entirely on what your relationship needs to move forward in a way that feels right to you.

  • Many couples find that it takes a while to internalize the new methods of relating learned through therapy… and this is normal! After spending time exploring your relational patterns in session and experiencing different ways of connecting, these new patterns of being together will likely begin to come to you naturally outside of the therapy room.

  • Sometimes people feel fearful about couple/relationship therapy. Partners may worry that they will not be heard or that one will be listened to more than the other. It is my job to hear you both equally, to challenge you as needed, and to help you each see your part in the dance that makes up your current relational style….so that we can figure out how you can shift things for the better. Please know that I take this very seriously and that I will often ask both of you for feedback to ensure that everyone feels safe, heard, and respected in session.

If you have any questions I haven’t answered or would like to see if you think we’re a good fit, please reach out!